Grief counseling is a popular form of psychotherapy often sought by those who have recently experienced a loss in something where a meaningful bond was formed. Grief counseling often is used when one suffers the loss of a loved one but can also be applied to any sort of loss, like a lost lover, loss of a pet, even a lost job. If left unchecked, grief can takes its toll an individual physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. Unfortunately, grief often affects every aspect of a victim’s life and can be an overbearing emotion that leaves people feeling empty.
The death of a loved one can be devastating and leave voids in the heart’s of sufferers. Unfortunately in our world, unexpected tragedies can occur and our loved ones can leave us before their time. It is crucial to be able to recognize grief in yourself or another and seek support. If a person is stuck grieving alone, the pain they feel can triple and they can cause harm to themselves or others. Signs of grief can vary but any sign should be taken seriously and addressed. Grief is not just sadness, it can come in the form of anger, loneliness, vulnerability, shame, and much more. Grief can leave people with a loss of appetite, a sense of hopelessness and detachment, and a loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities.
Grief does not have a timetable and has no map for coping with it. Everyone handles losses differently, some are affected more than others. However, for most people, there are five stages of grieving as Elizabeth Kubler-Ross pointed out:
1) Denial: The first reaction to a loss is often denial, where the individual cannot necessarily grasp what has occurred and may think them to be fiction.
2) Anger: A person is naturally inclined to feel anger when they lose a loved one. This anger can be directed near anywhere, but often at a doctor or God for being unable to prevent the loss from occurring.
3) Bargaining: This is when the individual feels a lack of control of the situation and struggles to cope often through proposing the “If only…” scenarios.
4) Depression: This is the most troubling step that people have a hard time recovering from. People suffering from a loss will often go into deep trances of sadness and hopelessness. People in the depression stage can be difficult to convince and hard to get to. If you know of anyone suffering from depression, we recommend counseling immediately.
5) Acceptance: Unfortunately, not everybody can make it to this state on their own. This stage is where the sufferer accepts their loss and copes with the experience personally. This is not a state of happiness and can at times be difficult to differ from the depression stage.
Grief is perhaps mankind’s heaviest emotion and carries with it a series of troublesome feelings that can be difficult to cope with. If you or a loved one is suffering from a grievance and is in any one of the stages above, you can contact Advance Counseling Center grief counseling and we can work together to recover from losses and cope with the emotions that follow. See what other issues we can help you with by visiting our Boise therapy services.